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The Bike Ride For Empathy
What is empathy? It's the act of "putting yourself in another person's shoes."
It's affirming their humanity, expressing understanding of their situation, and feeling with them.
Empathy is one of the most compassionate gifts we can give to those who are hurting and suffering.
There are four qualities in empathic encounters:
1. Perspective taking. The ability to recognize someone's perspective as their personal truth.
2. Staying out of judgment. (Giving people the grace to be themselves and share freely.)
3. Recognizing emotion in other people.
4. Communicating understanding.
If you like this, you might enjoy Brene's talks on
and shame. :)
Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other's eyes?
Empathy says, "It's not about me! It's about the people around me."
Empathic people avoid futile attempts to "fix" or give shallow advice to others.
Instead, their attitude is, "When you can't look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark."
When we commit to being empathic, it forces us to become better listeners.
Personally, some of my most meaningful encounters have been with people who've shown empathy to me during hard times.
Michael Sahota created an excellent visual that shows common ways well-meaning people block empathy to protect themselves from feeling.
"Imagine someone is in emotional distress," he writes, "By blocking their emotions from our reality, we can avoid acknowledging
and connecting to their pain. In the short run, this is great – we avoid pain. In the long run,
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Day 13 - Safford, AZ to Duncan, AZ
Day 14 - Duncan, AZ to Lordsburg, NM
Day 15 - Lordsburg, NM to Deming, NM
Day 16 - Deming, NM to Las Cruces, NM
Day 17 - Las Cruces, NM to El Paso, TX
Day 18 - Rest day in El Paso, TX
Day 19 - El Paso, TX to Salt Flat, TX
Day 20 - Salt Flat, TX to Carlsbad, NM
Day 21 - Carlsbad, NM to Eunice, NM
Day 22 - Eunice, NM to Andrews, TX
Day 23 - Andrews, TX to Lenorah, TX
Day 24 - Rest day in Big Spring and Ackerly, TX
Day 25 - Lenorah, TX to Colorado City, TX
Day 26 - Colorado City, TX to Sweetwater, TX
Day 27 - Sweetwater, TX to Abilene, TX
Day 28 - Rest day in Abilene, TX
Day 29 - Abilene, TX to Rising Star, TX
Day 30 - Rising Star, TX to Hamilton, TX
Day 31 - Hamilton, TX to Waco, TX
Day 32 - Waco, TX to Bellmead, TX
Day 33 - Bellmead, TX to Fairfield, TX
Day 34 - Fairfield, TX to Rusk, TX
Day 35 - Rusk, TX to Logansport, LA
Day 36 - Logansport, LA to Coushatta, LA
Day 37 - Coushatta, LA to Winnfield, LA
Day 38 - Winnfield, LA to Natchez, MS
Day 39 - Rest day in Natchez, MS
Day 40 - Natchez, MS to Brookhaven, MS
Day 41 - Brookhaven, MS to Collins, MS
Day 42 - Collins, MS to Hattiesburg, MS
Day 43 - Hattiesburg, MS to Mobile, AL
Day 44 - Mobile, AL to Loxley, AL
Day 45 - Rest day in Santa Rosa Beach, FL
Day 46 - Loxley, Al to Crestview, FL
Day 47 - Crestview, FL to DeFuniak Springs, FL
Day 48 - DeFuniak Springs, FL to Chattahoochee, FL
Day 49 - Chattahoochee, FL to Monticello, FL
Day 50 - Monticello, FL to Live Oak, FL
Day 51 - Live Oak, FL to Starke, FL
Day 52 - Starke, FL to New Smyrna Beach, FL
Day 53 - New Smyrna Beach, FL to Canaveral National Seashore, FL
I did this third trip because of my love of cycling.
It's so much fun to document the trip; you never know who or what
you'll encounter each day. Of course, the fitness and sense of accomplishment are high on the list too.