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The Bike Ride For Empathy
What is empathy? It's the act of "putting yourself in another person's shoes." It's affirming their humanity, expressing understanding of their situation, and feeling with them. Empathy is one of the most compassionate gifts we can give to those who are hurting and suffering.

There are four qualities in empathic encounters:

1. Perspective taking. The ability to recognize someone's perspective as their personal truth.

2. Staying out of judgment. (Giving people the grace to be themselves and share freely.)

3. Recognizing emotion in other people.

4. Communicating understanding.

If you like this, you might enjoy Brene's talks on blame and shame. :)

Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other's eyes?

Empathy says, "It's not about me! It's about the people around me."

Empathic people avoid futile attempts to "fix" or give shallow advice to others. Instead, their attitude is, "When you can't look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark."

When we commit to being empathic, it forces us to become better listeners.

Personally, some of my most meaningful encounters have been with people who've shown empathy to me during hard times.

How To Express Empathy and Avoid The Traps

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Michael Sahota created an excellent visual that shows common ways well-meaning people block empathy to protect themselves from feeling.

"Imagine someone is in emotional distress," he writes, "By blocking their emotions from our reality, we can avoid acknowledging and connecting to their pain. In the short run, this is great we avoid pain. In the long run, we destroy the fabric of our relationships and our environments... Read Entire Column

Empathy communicates "you are not alone."


The Route
Start (February 9, 2017): San Diego, California
Finish: Titusville, Florida

Route Map
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Cities on the route: San Diego CA; Yuma, AZ; Phoenix, AZ; Safford, AZ; Las Cruces, NM; El Paso TX; Carlsbad, NM; Waco, TX; Winnfield, LA; Natchez, MS; Troy, AL; Valdosta, GA; Titusville, FL.

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About Steve, The Cyclist
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A Road Biker In The Colorado Rocky Mountains

My name is Steve Garufi, a hiker, photographer, Licensed Professional Counselor and high-elevation poster child in Colorado's Rocky Mountains. I'm also a road cyclist who had the joy of biking across America in 2008 and 2011 and authoring a memoir about my first trip.

I'm going a third time because of my love of cycling. It's so much fun to document the trip; you never know who or what you'll encounter each day. Of course, the fitness and sense of accomplishment are high on the list too.

Will You Join Me? Become Part of This Trip

  • Pray for me.
  • Learn about the three charities I'm promoting and support them.
  • Donate to help with my trip expenses on gofundme.
  • During the bike tour, track my daily progress on Facebook and YouTube.
  • Enjoy the day-to-day journal that will be created after the trip is completed. It should look something like my 46-day collection for 2011. When you read my journals, it means a lot to me.
  • Or just read my book about my first bicycle tour in 2008. Under a Triumphant Sky: A Bike Across America Story is available in print and Kindle on Amazon.

    Training Before My Trip

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